Learning, Growing and Building Relationships at the Dinner Table

Jul 6, 2017 | UA News

Article and photo by Urban Alliance staff.

When friends or family gather around a table for a home-cooked meal, inevitably memory making and a level of connectedness are added to the menu. And, for dozens of teens and youth leaders who participate in The Hartford Project (THP), a summer urban ministry immersion experience in New England, “home dinners” provide the perfect platform for learning, growing and building relationships.

The goals of home dinners are to help show THP participants the benefits of urban living, open their eyes to see Hartford as a vibrant community where they might choose to live, and provide meaningful ways for participants to engage in topics of social injustice. 

For Caitlin Leffingwell, hosting a home dinner has been a highlight of her year, for six years so far.

“Hosting a THP home dinner is literally the biggest highlight of my year, for about a thousand reasons,” she shared. “It’s a chance to witness and foster the growing faith of teenagers, to feel my own faith encouraged by the youth and their leaders, to witness to my neighbors when explaining why so many kids came over for dinner, to join with my brothers and sisters in worship and prayer, and to introduce others more personally to the city I love.”

This year, Leffingwell, who attends Hartford City Church, hosted a group of youth and leaders from two churches, Trinity Covenant Church in Manchester, Connecticut and Westfield Evangelical Free Church in Westfield, Massachusetts. And, while this was one opportunity for youth and leaders to connect, the 4-day THP experience provided many more chances for these groups to interact and build relationships with other youth groups from Hartford and surrounding communities.

Plus, as part of Urban Alliance’s Next Generation initiative, which works to help churches and ministry organizations reach and serve youth so they develop the character, relationships and skills needed to succeed in their schools in communities, Hartford-based youth groups were invited to apply for a scholarship to subsidize the cost of THP and help connect youth in need of assistance to the experience. This year, 48 youth were awarded scholarships. 

While the connections may begin at the table, often they extend well after the dinner finishes up. 

“After our dinner and neighborhood walk this year, we took turns asking and answering questions,” said Leffingwell. “Several students expressed how nice it was to enjoy a home-cooked meal together, and they definitely seemed to bond while playing tag at the local park and exploring the neighborhood. One youth from a suburban church noted that our walk helped him to understand how we are all human, and how much was similar to where he lives, and how people are just people wherever you go.”

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The staff at Urban Alliance are familiar with Pastor Frank because he is a regular attendee to many of the trainings Urban Alliance provides on subjects like domestic violence, addressing childhood trauma, and better counseling techniques. “That’s been so valuable to me to be able to bring that back, not only in my counseling but also in my teaching and preaching ministries, “ shared Termine.

Pastor Frank was also one of the original members of the Micah group, a group of pastors that meets at Urban Alliance to discuss and strategize about challenging issues that face the church today. One of those earlier discussions on justice, incarceration, and returning citizens was particularly memorable. “We all lamented the fact that these men and women were coming out of prison into our churches and just kind of being thrown there,” said Termine, “We could do better than this.” That discussion planted the seeds that eventually led to the creation of Second Chance Churches – an opportunity for churches to provide support and mentoring to returning citizens that continues today.

When we asked Pastor Frank what he would say to another church that was unaware of Urban Alliance, he said, “If you are looking to get out in the community and make a difference in the community, Urban Alliance is a super way to do it. We’re a small church … we can’t do everything. Urban Alliance is a pathway to get our people involved in ministries that are already doing it, doing it well, and just need extra volunteers.”

Pastor Frank Termine’s story embodies many things we are trying to accomplish at Urban Alliance: supporting organizations in the communities they serve with training, resources, and opportunities to make a difference. Pastors and non-profit leaders face a wide range of challenges and, therefore, need a wide range of help and resources. Your support can help turn stories of struggle into stories like you find at Calvary Church.

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